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Post by SadKao on Aug 7, 2014 13:26:41 GMT
... almost a week ago. It was a stroke. A big one. He was hospitalized like 2 days and then he died. It was so fast it caught us by surprise.
I'm calmed, and of course I cried him a lot, but I mostly have a sense of peacefulness, thinking that he was a great dad and I could enjoy him for many years.
But I still will miss him a lot.
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Post by Sarah on Aug 8, 2014 22:22:06 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss Kao. I'm glad that you are able to take the view that your Dad is now at peace. I'm an extremely cynical person but even I believe in some sort of hereafter. I know that the suddenness of his death will have left you somewhat shell shocked, but at the same time it is the kind of way I'd like to 'go' if I were given the choice. Strokes can be cruel things, as I'm sure you know. They can leave a person trapped inside their bodies unable to communicate for years. So (and I think it's healthy to look for the blessings in situations like this) ultimately, the fact that the stroke was so severe, probably saved your Dad a lot of suffering. I'm glad your Dad had a chance to know Josefina and I'm sure she's glad too.
Rest in Peace Kao's Dad.
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Post by kaoh on Aug 11, 2014 3:37:40 GMT
Thank you Sarah.
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Post by NotAgain on Aug 17, 2014 3:38:27 GMT
Can you believe that now is my mom who is hospitalized with a stroke?. Fucking unbelievable.
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Post by Sarah on Aug 17, 2014 13:11:57 GMT
I'm so sorry. It does seem like a very cruel blow for you Kao. The only thing I can think of is that the shock and grief of losing your father has left her vulnerable to neurological / nervous system disorders.
I will pray to Archangel Raphael (lapsed Catholic...) for her, and for you, right after I finish typing. Stay strong. XXX.
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Post by OrphanKao on Aug 20, 2014 11:46:04 GMT
My Mom Passed Away past Monday, 20 days after my father's death. It was a heart-attack due a stroke and kidney failure.
Some friends can't believe how cruel this sounds, but most of them think is kinda romantic to think my parents loved each other so much they couldn't be apart.
I'm trying to be calmed and move on, knowing I'll miss them forever.
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Post by Sarah on Aug 22, 2014 19:05:01 GMT
Oh Kao, I'm so sorry. This must have been an enormous shock to you. It does seem very cruel and almost too overwhelming to handle. I know I couldn't handle two bereavements in such quick succession: Parents too.
I really don't know what to say. I hope you can stay strong and struggle through. I hope you can sense that they've both gone to a better place and take comfort from that.
I know what your friends mean - from an outsider's viewpoint - it is a very romantic thing to happen in one way. The impression that they couldn't exist without each other for very long.
But I know what you mean; it doesn't matter how old you are when you lose your parents - you could be aged 65 and still feel orphaned.
I hope you can adjust to your new circumstances soon and I hope the tide turns and you experience some good luck. You deserve it.
Thinking of you XXX.
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Post by K-aoh on Aug 22, 2014 19:33:40 GMT
Thank you Sarah. I'm guessing the first holidays will be the tough ones. Specially Christmas and New Year's Eve.
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Post by Sarah on Aug 29, 2014 22:09:05 GMT
Holidays will be very difficult for a long time. And of-course they will never be the same as they were. But at least you have Josefina to concentrate on. And I think trying to make Christmas, New Year etc. exciting for her will at least be something of a distraction.
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